You can push and push and push those feelings all the way down to your toes and step on them all day long to make them disappear. Not because you subliminally messaged them to ask you about it.
But denying the fact that you are having these feelings and ignoring them continuously will not make them go away. Under any circumstance. Just feel your feelings. Take a minute, an hour, or even a day and just feel. About the situation? Or yourself? Or the circumstances that got you there? Or the people involved? Zero access to understanding the complexity of feeling and trying to avoid it, makes some people act out. Others shut down. Some drink.
Some spend 4 hours on Instagram. Some do drugs. Others eat lots of Doritos. And sadly, many blow things up. Feelings have no socio-economic or gender or sexual identity or ethnic demarcations.
Feeling imprints. You see a bird die at the age of 8. If you're jittery or guarded, your subconscious may be picking up on something that your conscious mind has missed, such as subtle body language that sends a contradictory message to what your guy is proclaiming.
Although you don't want to live by your emotions, paying attention to feelings can be a key to figuring out why you are uneasy or mistrustful in a relationship. Elise Wile has been a writer since Holding a master's degree in curriculum and Instruction, she has written training materials for three school districts. Her expertise includes mentoring, serving at-risk students and corporate training.
I think he is in a relationship, he never did anything for me to feel this way, it was just instant from day one. I get the worse case of butterflies every time we make eye contact, he always seems to be looking at me I never wanted this to happen, how do I controll my feelings? One can never turn feelings off!!! First of all!. Sounds sweet, this connection you have with this person. If he's not married, he's not completely devoted. Feeling undesirable and rejected is going to start affecting all aspects of your life and will only drive a wedge further between you and your partner.
In the early stages of your relationship, you want to be with each other all the time. You spend most of your time together, and the rest of it sending Snapchats and cute texts. First, you leave a few hair grips at his place, then he leaves a toothbrush at yours and all of a sudden, a drawer becomes a key. If you no longer find yourself actively missing your partner, something has definitely shifted.
The fact that the connection between you and your partner has changed suggests that your feelings have, too. You might find yourself no longer replying to messages as quickly as before, or not being the first to send them anymore.One of the worse feelings in the world is to have someone you care about play with your feelings. Not only can it leave you feeling broken hearted, it can really take a toll on your self-esteem.